Life has been hectic. Pull your hair out, eat a pint of ice cream, and drink a bottle of wine hectic.
A year ago I never would have thought that I would be planning a wedding, moving and selling a house, moving in with my sister, and not knowing where my husband to be and I will be living in 3 months. Even with all the upcoming changes in our lives and the never ending to do lists I am excited for what our future holds as husband and wife. It is amazing the risks you are willing to take when the right person is by your side.
With that being said, I can’t emphasis enough how lucky I am to be working with some fabulous vendors for our wedding who have helped to make the process way less stressful. I am guilty of thinking in the beginning that we would DIY way more aspects of the wedding, but after a few hiccups in my first few DIY projects I realized this was not the day to all of a sudden try and be Martha Stewart.
Here are a few of the things that I considered when I finally decided to let go and let someone else take care of my vision:
- What are the cost of the supplies on my side to create the wedding details I am envisioning? Is it possible that they are cheaper for someone who can purchase wholesale, or would I need to purchase a decent quantity for the project while only using a teeny bit of what I purchased?
- Do I possess any of the skills necessary without hours of YouTube tutorials? Time is not only money, limited time equals stress. I am moving not only once, but twice before the wedding while still working full time. I decided if delegating saves me 2+ hours and the cost of the service is marginally more expensive than the cost of supplies with me doing it myself I am buying it.
- Can this task be done way before the wedding or is it a week of the big day task? We both have friends and family coming out from all over the country and my future husband’s best man is coming from Afghanistan. Our priority is to spend time with our loved ones, not trying to put together flowers at the last minute or steaming linens.
The above are just a few of the thoughts that have run through my head in this wedding planning adventure, they are by no means all the thoughts, but if you struggled with the same question of: should I DIY or should I not DIY because you were questioning the savings and the time commitment know that it is okay to say I need to hire someone. Took a few bumps in the road before I finally gave myself permission to do this, but I am so glad I did!
Yesterday I mentioned how one of my priorities in the wedding planning process is to make sure I take care of myself since I am notorious for stressing myself out to the max. When I thought about how I used to pamper myself, I immediately thought about a super yummy pumpkin masque I had used this past Fall that I am still in love with.
It isn’t Fall anymore, but the idea of spending a night this week with this masque on my face this week seriously makes me swoon. I used to hate to admit it, but I am in love with anything that can tout being sulfate and paraben free. Being 99.6% natural is also a huge plus, because really natural is always better. Better than natural though is better skin which I swear this masque when used properly does.
What’s this masque I am in love with? It’s the FarmHouse Fresh Splendid Dirt Nutrient Mud Mask with Organic Pumpkin Puree. And, just in case you think this must be a sponsored post, nope I bought myself it a few months ago and I loved it and just wanted to share. If you use the proper amount each time per masque it will be cheaper than what you buy at CVS or Rite Aid so the $20 or so for a jar is quite the steal.
Give it a shot, seriously even if you are a die hard drug store masque girl this one may make you change your mind. The pleasant scents of pumpkin make it a luxurious splurge that you won’t regret even in the heat of summer.
My fiancé asked me to marry him on our anniversary which happens to be December 22nd, and knowing that we wanted a summer wedding and not wanting to wait over a year to marry the man of my dreams I dove right into planning. With the upcoming Christmas holiday engagements I knew there would be a lot of other newly engaged couples competing for the prime wedding vendors that weren’t already booked months out. Summers in the Pacific Northwest are gorgeous, but the fantastic weather is so fleeting that Saturday’s in the months between June and September get booked rather quickly and if we wanted to have our wedding in the next year I needed to get organized and fast. With this fear of not being able to execute a wedding in my home state in the next summer I dove straight in to contacting vendors to execute the big day I had been dreaming of since I was a little girl.
While I accomplished a lot of planning in a really short time, I really wish I had taken a moment to just enjoy being engaged and sometimes I really did need reminders to slow down and just breathe for a minute. Even more importantly I wish I had come up with the keep my sanity while planning a wedding plan. Being like so many other couples that have high stress jobs there were already many days where we both felt like we were juggling all our responsibilities let alone throwing planning a wedding into the mix.
But other couples do it on even shorter timelines so we figured we would be fine.
And, for the most part we have been fine. Wedding planning and dreaming of our big day has been fun, but I would be lying to you if I didn’t admit to epic breakdowns where I was crying from being overwhelmed with decisions and fears that I wasn’t choosing the right vendors and there moments where in my stress I was nothing short of a brat to the people around me. I don’t want to use the term Bridezilla since there hasn’t been a moment where I have not been conscious that this day is about more than just me. Heck, I know that the day is more than just about us as a couple, but in my stressed out bridal brain while second guessing everything, I have probably not been some people’s favorite person.
Having realized I am over stressed about just about everything I decided it was best if I took a step back from planning, and evaluate what I need to do to be happy while planning. In the beginning I just was full steam ahead on planning mode and taking care of myself fell completely to the wayside. Does this mean I have stopped planning? No, what it means is I have realized that being in constant wedding planning mode has made my life less enjoyable than it should be, and has probably also made little decisions a bigger stress than they should be. It’s a big day, we are spending a lot of money to host a wonderful ceremony and reception for our family and friends, but if I am stressed out to the point of exhaustion between now and September I am not going to enjoy the day as much as I should.
Now my only daily “wedding planning” must do is taking time to assess what I need to do to make sure I stay happy and healthy. Some days that may mean I go for a nice long sweaty workout and other days it may mean a little DIY with an at home facial and a trashy romance novel. The priority is no longer being one track minded with wedding planning, the priority now is taking care of me.
There is no easy way to start, other than to just say hello!
In the next six months I am going to be getting married to the most amazing man in the world. These next few months will be amazing, stressful, and unlike anything I have ever experienced before. Less than four months into the planning of our wedding and I can tell you that it is an experience that I have loved while simultaneously hating every moment of, but I can’t wait for the day it all comes together and we say I do.
It’s been in the planning of our wedding that I decided I wanted to let others in on the process as I go through all the ups, downs, and in betweens of planning. I have loved browsing all of the wedding blogs that are out there now, but I found that so many of them focused on the perfection of weddings and more often than not, the stress and heartache of disappointment of the wedding planning process are glossed over.
Middleton and More is the beginning of our journey, the planning of our wedding, and your insight into the stress and joys of this bride-to-be.